Looking for signs he is fighting his feelings for you? Great you have come to the right place!
It can be hard to know if someone has feeling for you and even harder to know if someone is fighting their feeling for you BUT there are some key signs that can give you a clearer answer in this regard.
Whether it is a new flame, your ex or even a married man, here are 30 signs a guy is fighting his feelings for you:
30 Signs He is Fighting his Feelings for You
He likes ALL of your social media posts:
You’ve just posted your latest selfie on Instagram and he’s already liked it. You shared that funny meme on Facebook and he’s already dropped a laughing emoji on it.
You can’t help but notice that this guy seems to be the very first one to like your social media posts. And he likes ALL of them. This is a big sign he’s fighting feelings for you.
It’s clear he’s paying close attention to you and your posts. He notices anytime you share anything new and he’s making sure you take notice of him by giving you his attention liking them. He may not be ready to share those feelings with you yet but you can bet they’re there.
He gets jealous when you spend time with other guys:
A guy who has feelings for you (but maybe isn’t quite ready to admit them yet) will be jealous seeing you with another guy.
He may not be exactly sure if he wants to act on his feelings yet, but while he’s working on figuring those feelings out, he definitely won’t want to see you with anyone else.
He’ll show the typical signs of jealousy when you bring another guy around or talk about a date you had. This is a pretty good sign he’s fighting his feelings for you.
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He seems to be protective over you
He doesn’t let anyone pick on you, he opens doors for you, and he always offers to walk you to your car. If he is fighting his feelings for you, he might not be quite ready to let you know just yet.
But he’s going to have a hard time fighting the instinct to want to protect you. Guys feel naturally protective over those that they care about and even if he’s trying to keep you from seeing what he’s feeling, he’s going to want to act on those protective instincts.
He doesn’t talk about other girls around you:
Even if he isn’t sure he wants to tell you that he likes you or is fighting his feelings for you, he’ll be cautious about mentioning other girls when you’re around.
He may be taking his time working out how he feels about you and if he wants to act on those feelings. And if he does decide he wants to share how he’s feeling, he wants you to be aware that he is available so he won’t be talking about any other girls when you’re around.
His behavior changes when you’re around:
Maybe he’s normally a pretty calm, laid back guy but the minute you come around he seems to be more tense and even somewhat on edge.
Or he’s usually more boisterous, even one of the loudest guys in the group and quick to speak his mind. But all of the sudden there’s radio silence from him when you walk in the room. Whatever behavior change you notice, if he’s acting differently and it all seems to be tied to your presence, there’s a very good chance he’s fighting his feelings for you.
He finds excuses to talk to you:
He always goes to you for advice about a certain thing (even though you have no doubts his friends could easily help him out).
If you spend time together in a group setting he always seems to be most interested in whatever topic you’re discussing. However he goes about it, if you notice a guy seems to be finding excuses to go out of his way and chat with you, there’s a good chance he has feelings for you and he might just be fighting them right now.
He seems nervous when you’re around:
Normally cool as a cucumber, as soon as you turn up he’s sweating bullets.
His voice gets a little higher than normal, he has a nervous laugh, and he can’t seem to sit still. A sudden change to his normal actions like this are a big sign he’s fighting his feelings for you.
He likes you and just your presence is enough to make him a nervous wreck. Even if he hasn’t shared how he’s feeling, it’ll be plenty obvious to you and everyone else around.
His friends drop hints that he may like you:
Anytime you’re around his friends, they make subtle (or maybe even not so subtle) jokes about him having a big crush on you.
He may laugh it off or tell his friends to knock it off. Either way, if his friends are dropping hints that this guy is into you, there’s a super strong chance that he is.
He may be fighting those feelings and isn’t quite ready for you to find out about them but if his friends are aware he likes you and they’re taking efforts to let you know, then he most certainly does.
He asks your friends about you:
Whether it’s asking about your current relationship status, your favorite place to go to dinner, or your favorite hobby, if he has feelings that he’s fighting for you he might just spend some time asking around about you.
And what better source than your friends? Whatever the reason he’s trying to fight what he’s feeling, he’s not ready to go straight to the source (you) but he does want to know more about you.
If your friends mention he’s been asking around about you, this is a good sign he’s fighting feelings for you.
He tries to make you jealous:
He talks about the date he had last night or the awesome girl he’s been talking to. And it seems like everytime he mentions this girl he looks to you for a reaction.
Maybe he’s shared his feelings with you and you didn’t return them, or he hasn’t shared his feelings and is actually hoping you’ll make the first move.
Whatever the reasoning behind it, if it seems he’s trying to make you jealous by talking about other girls when you’re around then he probably is. This is a solid sign he’s fighting how he feels about you.
You catch him staring at you:
It seems like every time you glance his way, you happen to catch him staring at you. You might even call him out on it and he just laughs it off.
If he’s got feelings for you, he’s not going to be able to help checking you out. Even if he’s fighting those feelings right now, his eyes will automatically be drawn to you.
He’s interested in you and he’s going to seek you out in the room, maybe even without realizing it!
He avoids eye contact with you:
If he has feelings for you but he’s trying to hide them he’s going to have a hard time making eye contact with you. He might be afraid his feelings will be super obvious with any sort of eye contact or your presence might just make him nervous leading to him unintentionally avoiding direct eye contact with you.
Whatever his exact reasoning, if you notice he has a hard time meeting your gaze, it’s a pretty good sign he’s fighting his feelings for you.
One of the biggest signs he’s fighting his feelings for you.
He “shows off” when you’re around:
He makes sure you hear about his latest lifts at the gym, that exciting new business venture he has going, or that awesome trip he’s getting ready to take.
However he goes about it, if you notice a guy seems to be “showing off” anytime you’re around there’s a good chance he’s fighting his feelings for you.
He might just be seeing how you react to all the cool things he has going on in his life to see if you’d be a good fit for him. Or maybe he’s just scared to make a move right now, but he wants you to like him when he is ready to make his move.
This could be a new flame but showing off is also a big sign your ex is fighting his feelings for you.
He seems to get close to you then pulls away again:
He texts you everyday, calls to see how your day was at night, and you go out on a date or two. Everything seems to be going really well, you’re getting to know each other and having fun.
Then all of the sudden his texts become more infrequent and it’s been over a week since you saw him. As frustrating as it is, this hot and cold behavior is a solid sign he’s fighting his feelings for you.
It may be that he’s scared to get too close to you or just not sure he wants to dive into a relationship just yet.
One of the main signs he is denying his feelings for you.
He asks you personal questions:
He might not quite be ready to ask you on a date just yet but if he has feelings he’s trying to hide from you, he’s going to be asking you all sorts of personal questions.
Even if he isn’t sure how to act on those feelings just yet, he still wants to get to know you. He’ll be eager to soak up every detail about you that he can.
So if he’s recently started asking you about your favorite foods, hobbies, where you grew up, or any other sort of personal questions, consider he might just be fighting how he feels about you.
He tells you things about himself:
Have you noticed he’s started sharing more information with you about himself? Maybe he’s started telling you about his family, his favorite foods, what he likes to do in his spare time.
If you’ve picked up on an increase in information overload, there’s a good chance he’s got feelings for you. He may not have shared this bit of information with you yet, but without even realizing it he’s going to want to tell you more about himself.
He wants you to like him too, after all, even if he’s trying to fight how he feels right now.
His body language gives it away:
This can go 2 ways. He may seem very open and in tune to you when you’re around. Brushing up against your knee when you sit near each other, casually draping an arm over your shoulder.
Or it could go the other way entirely and he may seem closed off, avoiding any contact and even sitting nowhere near you. Both styles of body language could indicate he likes you but is fighting his feelings for you.
Being closed off may mean he’s not sure what to do with his feelings or is afraid of getting close to you. If he’s more open to the idea, but still somewhat hesitant he’ll be more warm and open.
He seems extra thoughtful towards you:
He brings you soup when you’re sick or your favorite bottle of wine on a bad day. He walks you to your car at night and texts you to make sure you made it home safely.
Any of these things indicate he has feelings for you! He’s being a perfect gentleman and comes off as extra thoughtful.
He may not have realized how he feels yet but if he cares about you he’s not going to be able to help being extra thoughtful when you’re involved.
He makes up reasons to be able to spend time with you:
Maybe you’re perfectly capable of hanging pictures in your new apartment but he insists on helping out.
Or you’ve taken your car to the shop for an oil change a million times but he’s determined to do it for you.
If he’s fighting feelings for you, he may not be ready to share his thoughts but his actions are going to indicate that he’s feeling something more than friendship for you.
He avoids you:
This is likely pretty confusing, and maybe even a bit hurtful for you, especially if you’ve had a good relationship or you were even friends before he started acting differently.
If he’s suddenly realized his feelings are stronger than friendship, he may freak out.
Not sure how to deal with these new feelings he’s having for you, he may resort to avoiding it altogether. And the best way to do that is to avoid you. If he avoids you, he won’t have the reminder that he’s developed feelings for you.
He won’t make eye contact with you:
You try to make eye contact with him during a conversation and it seems like he looks everywhere BUT at you.
If he’s fighting feelings for you, just being around you may cause his heart to race, palms to sweat, and kick his adrenaline level into high gear.
Making eye contact is likely to increase the nerves even more. He wants to be around you and talk with you, but making eye contact is going to be a challenge for him.
He takes up for you:
He won’t stand for his friends (or yours) giving you a hard time. Even if it’s all in good fun, he’s quick to come to your rescue.
He might not come right out and say it, but if he is more than happy to play the knight in shining armor for you then he likely has feelings for you.
He may be fighting those feelings right now out of fear or confusion but if he takes up for you regularly, he probably cares for you as more than a friend.
He texts or calls you regularly:
If you’ve noticed he’s started calling or texting you on a regular basis, especially if your contact used to be pretty limited, he probably has more than friendship on his mind.
Even if he’s fighting his feelings for you, he’ll have a hard time keeping from reaching out to you. He’ll want to hear your voice and see your name pop up in his text messages, even if he isn’t quite ready to share how he’s feeling with you yet.
He notices small things about you:
He notices when you get a haircut or you get a new pair of shoes. He notices when you seem to be having an off day or when you seem to be in an extra good mood. It’s evident he’s interested in you.
No guy who’s just a friend will take note of those tiny details like he is. Whether he’s just not quite ready to open up and share how he’s feeling or he’s scared to take the leap with you, he might not be quite ready to tell you how he’s feeling but it’s obvious he’s fighting his feelings for you.
He asks for your opinion a LOT:
“What do you think about this shirt? I’m thinking of buying this house, what do you think about it? I may take a new job, what are your thoughts around that?”
If you’ve noticed a guy is asking you these types of questions on a regular basis, he may have feelings for you that he’s fighting.
Even if he isn’t quite ready to share his feelings with you, if he likes you he’s definitely going to care about what you think and may turn to you for your thoughts on big and small decisions alike.
You can’t help but notice the chemistry between the two of you:
If there’s something between the two of you, it might just be obvious. Whether you have noticed it yourself or your friends have pointed it out, if there’s chemistry there it’s going to be evident.
It seems that he’s noticed it too, he flirts with you and seems to genuinely enjoy being around you and it’s contributing to the feeling of that spark.
If he’s flirting and seems to be making an effort to get to know you, but hasn’t asked you out yet despite the evident chemistry, he may be fighting his feelings for you.
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He teases you:
It’s an age old saying, but have you ever heard that if he teases you it means he likes you? For whatever reason he may not be ready to share his feelings for you but he’s still going to have a hard time not acting on those feelings when you’re around each other.
He may gently tease you, play little jokes on you, or jokingly give you a hard time. Doing all of these things indicate he likes you, and are a pretty good sign he’s fighting his feelings for you.
He’s slow to text you back:
If he’s fighting his feelings for you, you may have noticed an increase in how long it takes him to respond to your text messages.
He might not be ready to tell you how he feels just yet but he is going to be cautious of what he says to you. He may take longer than normal to respond because he’s taking his time thinking about how he wants to respond.
He’s trying to think about how to be clever, sweet, make you laugh, and any other response he thinks will impress you.
He cares what you think about him:
While spending time with mutual friends, they tell a story about something he once did that paints a not so pretty picture of him.
He’s quick to explain himself and make sure you hear his side of the story. He seems especially focused on explaining it to you as he explains himself. He may be fighting his feelings for you right now, but if he does decide to let you know he likes you, he’s not going to want you to have any sort of bad opinion about him.
Even if he isn’t sure what he wants to do about his feelings for you, he’s going to care what you think about him.
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His behavior is inconsistent:
His mood and behavior seems to change from one minute to the next. He asks you to go out on a date with him, only to get on the date and act completely uninterested.
If he is fighting his feelings for you, he’s going to have a hard time showing you any signs of consistency.
Whatever the reason he’s holding back, he hasn’t decided fully to commit to you and because of that he’s going to leave you feeling confused with his hot and cold actions.